Happiness, Life lessons

Love your neighbor

As we settle into 2022, I think back to what’s happened in the last few years. Democrats vs. republicans, black vs. white, rich vs. poor, male vs. female, heterosexual vs. LGBTQ, attacks on houses of prayer, school shootings, and the list goes on.

It has been a sobering, sad time of loss.

I hope that we have learned something from these moments: we all have different backgrounds and preferences that lead us to be who we are today. But that doesn’t mean we should be on opposite sides, it just means that we should see that the differences are what make us interesting.

Photo courtesy of Demietrich Baker.

Happiness, Life lessons, Self care

A benevolent world

There are 2 ways to see the world around you:

  • Good with nice people who want the best for you
  • Difficult with mean people who want to make you miserable, cheat, or treat you poorly

As we start our day, I really believe that the way we expect it to unfold has a direct effect on how it does. “It’s gonna be a great day!” is a much better way to begin than “Ugh. Another day of work and misery.” Granted, few of us are at either extreme but it might be worth a try changing how you view the world around you. And if we all did, what a lovely place it could be.

Happy almost Valentine’s Day!

Image courtesy of Sue Thompson.

Happiness, Parenting

How do you like your stories?

It’s been a long time since I’ve written a blog. I could blame it on COVID but it’s probably just that I ran out of things to say.

Well, I’m happy to report that I’m back – and this time with some stories. I’ve always loved books and some recent encouragement that my voice brings solace propelled me to record some podcasts. These are stories found on Project Gutenberg (Gutenberg.org) – a site with over 60K free eBooks with a focus on older works that are no longer under U.S. copyright. These are children’s stories but they are not limited to children.

For example, my latest addition is “Alice in Wonderland,” written by Lewis Carroll. Though it’s identified as a children’s book, the imagery and adventures that Alice experiences appeals to all ages. So, I invite you, your kids, your parents, and your friends, to check it out and let me know what you think. I’m happy to take requests too – I’ve already received one for “Mark Twain” so that may be up next.

I must thank my sons, Nick and Tony Capra, for their unfailing guidance and support throughout this process. Without their ongoing assistance, advice, and technical mastery, this would never have happened. A special thanks to Kateri Kramer too, for her signature artwork that exemplifies the love and hope I hope these stories bring.

Each week, I’ll add a chapter to the roster. But there are already a few for you to start with – so happy reading – and listening – to you. I hope you enjoy your story today…

Happiness, Self care

Are you a Superhero?

Now that The Walt Disney Company owns Marvel Entertainment, there’s a myriad of movies featuring superheroes. From Batman to Wonder Woman, superheroes are becoming a big draw in theatres. According to Stephen McFeely, as reported in, “Why Superhero Movies Are Popular Right Now, According to Superhero Writers,” superhero movies are “taking over that same black hat, white hat myth-making surface” much like westerns did back in the 1950’s.

Why are we so enamored with superheroes?

I think it’s twofold:

  1. They would risk anything to save us when we’re scared or in danger.
  2. We aspire to be like them.

These “super” men and women have the guts to tackle the things we fear: bad guy, scary place, the unknown. But superheroes aren’t only in the movies. They’re the man who saves a child from despair, the firefighter who risks her life to save the pet in the burning house, the generous philanthropist, the kind soul who sees suffering and offers support.

We read and hear so much “bad” news that the good news gets buried. Focus on the good around you and it will increase. Become a part of that good, and it increases many times over.

I like to think we’re all superheroes in training. What color cape would you like?

Photo courtesy of Twanda Baker.

Community involvement, Happiness

Kindness Today and Every Day

Random Acts of Kindness

 

Picture a body of water in which a rock has been thrown. As it drops, one ring, two rings, and many more rings surround it. This is how goodness spreads. Good thoughts, good deeds, good feelings towards others are what our nation needs most now – not just those who look or think like us, but everyone.

I believe that what we focus on is empowered and grows. With all that’s happened lately, there is sadness, helplessness, and anger in the air. Instead of focusing on what separates us, we should turn our energies to what connects us – we are all one race – the human race. So it makes sense to focus on the good that is happening around us, as well as the good that we can bring about. Random Acts of Kindness promotes looking out for each other and paying it forward. Their website suggests crocheting baby items and donating them to a hospital, sponsoring a child from another country, adding a compliment to the next email you write, and more.

A Good Example

In the 1994 movie, “Only You,” Marisa Tomei and Bonnie Hunt run out of gas in Italy while driving in circles searching for their destination. They grab a bottle of wine and begin walking to find help, finally giving up, drinking while contemplating their screwed up lives. Meanwhile, bypassing nuns kindly fill the tank, leave a note on the windshield, and drive away smiling. When the friends discover their good fortune, they’re filled with appreciation. How lovely would it be to generate that kind of happiness every day?

Uplifting Stories 

Here are some stories to help get you in the mood:

A Few Last Words

As Rabbi Harold Kushner once said, “We all have the power to give away love, to love other people. And if we do so, we change the kind of person we are, and we change the kind of world we live in.”

Photo courtesy of Heath Brandon

Community involvement, Happiness, Life lessons

A Sausage Sandwich to the Rescue

Sausage Sandwich

I keep snacks in my car to give to homeless people begging by the side of the road. I don’t like to give them money because I don’t know if it’ll go towards drugs or alcohol or other self-defeating activities so I buy a big box of granola bars or snacks and hand them out when I can.

Recently, on the way home from an Italian festival, my family and I stopped at a stoplight and there was a homeless man holding a sign. I reached in the back and gave him a snack sized bag of cookies. He thanked me, turned around and immediately opened the bag and began eating. My 14-year-old noticed and remarked on how hungry the man must have been . “That’s true, I’m happy we were able to help a bit,” I said.

But that wasn’t enough for him. We had brought home extra food from the festival – a few sausage sandwiches and a bag of sugary dessert. We had already proceeded to our next stop, the grocery store, when my son remembered the food. “What if we gave him that?” he asked. My boyfriend was going into the store to pick up a few things and I explained to my son that he would have to give the food to the homeless man and it may be difficult since we would be driving in a different direction and he’d have to call him to the car. “That’s okay, I’ll do it,” he said eagerly, jumping into the front passenger seat.

So my boyfriend went into the grocery store and I drove back to the spot where we had seen the homeless man. He wasn’t at the corner anymore, he had moved to a grassy area on the riverbank and was sitting with some others. My son hesitated, thinking, and then jumped out of the car with the bags of food and raced across the street to the man. I had to move ahead as the light had changed and leave him there. As he met us at the next corner, I thought, “Wow, that is something to see.” I was so proud of his courage and kindness. I asked what the man had said. With a sly smile, he answered, “He and the others said, ‘Bless my heart.'”

Photo courtesy of Phil Parker.

Happiness

Ever the Student

Birthday

I just celebrated another birthday and although some could panic at another year gone by, I’m learning that each year brings new opportunity to learn. I have many things on my list including learning how to:

  • write children’s books and finish mine plus a few more
  • get my newly minted book(s) published
  • let go of things I cannot control
  • be as good a friend as mine are
  • relax
  • meditate (for real, not just sitting and wishing those random thoughts would go away)
  • be kinder and gentler

One thing I’ve learned so far: never say never and never say always, because absolutes simply don’t roll in this crazy little thing called life.

Photo courtesy of Theresa Thompson